Welcome to pregnancychoice
. This community was created to provide a completely safe and unbiased space for women and girls who are facing an unplanned or otherwise crisis pregnancy and want support, information, and help making their decision regarding the pregnancy.
This is a safe space
. That means that women coming here must feel safe in sharing their stories and speaking about personal sexual decisions that much of society would criticize them for.
SO, A few ground rules:1) No pressure
. Pressure can range from "how could you give up your child" and "if you murder your baby it'll haunt you forever" to "women tend to regret their abortions" or "you'll regret it if you don't keep your child." I want to make clear right from the beginning that no one here is to tell any woman what she should do regarding her pregnancy. Every choice is valid. What seems to be the "obviously right" choice to you may not be the right choice for her. so what CAN we do?
We can help a woman find resources to support any and every choice. We can give her moral support. We can discuss her situation with her and try to help her discover which choice she feels inside is the best one for her. We can help a woman to make the choice she wants to make but thinks is impossible - whichever choice that is. We can listen
Every person is worthy of respect. And everyone here will show everyone else respect. No lecturing. No bullying. No disparaging. No condescending. Respect only and respect fully. This is not always going to be easy. If it's too hard for you on a given post, just don't comment on that post.3) No judging of a woman's personal sexual choices, birth control choices, and/or relationship choices.
It doesn't matter if she's slept with the football team or was raped in an alley, no one will make disparaging comments. No one will criticize. It doesn't matter if she used 3 forms of BC or had unprotected sex every night for three months. No one will comment. No one will judge. No one will allude. No one will pointedly suggest that she use BC from now on.
People are sensitive about their BC habits. Hormones don't work for everyone. Remember that you don't know this person's story or her reasons for her BC practices. And remember it's not your business.
People are coming here because they have a problem they need help solving, not for a lecture. Making them feel bad about their bc choices will cause them to leave and not come back. what if there's instances of abuse?
Treat this as the delicate subject it is. If you disparage a person's loved one, they are likely to close up on you. Try to criticize the behavior instead of the person if possible. Gently direct the victim to resources. Make no judgments and no demands.
We've had these rules in abortioninfo
for a long time, and that's what's made it the safe and helpful community that it is. Let's make this community just as safe, and just as helpful. A true community dedicated to helping others!